An open letter to myself regarding the recent decision of the Culpeper County School Board to dis-allow prayer at school board meetings


Where was I when prayer was voted out of our schools and administration?

What was I doing as they asked Him to leave?

How long do I sit back and offer criticism after the fact rather than standing up for Truth?

Why have I decided to choose the politically correct position rather than standing up for the good fight?

These are all serious questions that I have asked myself over the past days.  As a nation we all seem to have our focus on the safety of our children in school.  Some feel the school system has failed our children.  Some feel that gun laws and legislation has failed our children.  Some feel that the mental health system has failed our children.  I feel that we have all failed ourselves.  It is not just the children that are in danger, but the entire country, dare I say, all of mankind are in danger from themselves.

Sadly, because the victims of our choices made over the past sixty to seventy years, is no longer uneducated, lesser adults.  The victims who suffer the consequences of our life choices are our children.  Humanity’s self-righteous tendencies, conscious or unconscious, buffered us for many years from the reality of what we as a whole have allowed society to become: morally blank, self-serving and depraved.

Lacking personal accountability; lacking a compass of right and wrong; lacking an awareness that the long term affects of our choices has led us all to this point.   What point?  We have to worry each day when we send our children to school whether or not they may survive the day.  Gun violence, sexual predators and bullies are the very real result of sixty plus years lacking parenting, grand-parenting, church fellowship, prayer and the Word of God within our daily lives.

We have chosen, to remove the hand of God from our households, workplaces and schools.  Violence is what fills the vacuum when God’s grace, love and mercy are absent.  And yet we all cry out, “How can this be?  Whom can we blame?”

The honest truth is that we are all to blame.  We have all failed.  The Word reads, “that we all fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23)  Too often this statement, by the apostle Paul, is twisted out of context to suit our own personal wants and desires.  We have evolved from a mindset of “I’m a sinner anyway, so I’ll just do what I want” to “God, you are not welcome here” and even worse, we have now stated, “God you are not needed here.”

Though the effects of His absence are profound, none dare to take responsibility for turning our backs on God.  Well, I will.  I AM has set me apart, called me out to serve mankind but I sat back and did nothing while yet again, prayer and God’s presence where invited to leave.

I have grieved myself knowing that I did not speak up when it mattered.  Instead, I joined in the ‘arm-chair quarter- backing’ after the fact rhetoric.  Taking to social media with my input of what should have been done and what should have been said resolved nothing.

However, I will now stand unwavering for what I believe.  My actions will line up with my beliefs- which line up with the Word.  I pray that, “His will is done on earth as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:10)  My votes will be prayerfully cast.  I will no longer sacrifice our children to protect myself from possible persecution of a morally inept society.  At His leading, I will begin whatever process necessary to keep God in the midst of all that I am.  I am not a martyr.  But, I am boldly a parent, prophet, teacher, evangelist and Christian.

“For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.  Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.  I will be found by you,’ declares the Lord…” Jeremiah 29:11-14 NASB

With better clarity, verse 13 in the Amplified bible reads, “Then [with a deep longing] you will seek Me and require Me [as a vital necessity] and [you will] find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13 AMP

Do we require Him as a vital necessity?  Do our actions reflect our answer to that question?  Do our actions even align with our job titles?  Parents need to parent.  Teachers should teach.  Preachers need to share the Word and guide in Truth and by the leading of Holy Spirit.  Elected officials should accurately represent those who have elected them rather than cowering to the (loud) complaints of a few.

I also ask this, “if our children are our inheritance and a vital necessity to society, why do we not treat them as such?”  Cover our children in prayer: at home, at church and at school.  It is a fundamental problem, God was removed and wrong moved in to take His place.  Why mandate that prayer is not allowed as we spend countless dollars trying to figure out what is wrong with the systems in place?

Read Psalm 127.  Study it until it becomes real and alive in your heart.  Children are our inheritance, our reward.  Nothing we can do of ourselves can protect our children better or more efficiently than when they are prayerfully covered by His hand.

Psalm 127  (NASB)

1Unless the Lord builds the house,
They labor in vain who build it;
Unless the Lord guards the city,
The watchman keeps awake in vain.
It is vain for you to rise up early,
To retire late,
To eat the bread of painful labors;
For He gives to His beloved even in his sleep.

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them;
They will not be ashamed
When they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Reverend Heather Stanley Nungesser, Master of Theology